I girl-bossed too hard again...
My journey from girl boss to homemaker to content creator to stressed out girl boss and back to homemaker.....
I did it AGAIN.
I went full speed ahead building a brand about not girl-bossing… only to accidentally girl-boss myself into burnout. And to be completely honest? My home is starting to show it.
Here’s how I’m changing that.
My Story
Before I identified as a homemaker, I was a hardcore boss babe. Even though I cringe thinking about how masculine I used to be in my demeanor, all I wanted to do was become a multi-millionaire CEO.
I don’t look back and hate on the woman I was. She learned so much and changed for the better, so I’m proud of her.
As time went on, and I got married, my mentality completely changed.
I learned from some trusted mentors, read books, studied the Bible, and realized I had a different desire in life.
I still had a deep desire to build a business, but I wanted to prioritize my marriage, my home, and future children one day.
I realized I loved working hard, but I wanted to work hard serving the Lord, by serving the people in my home.
Once I had this realization that I’d like to prioritize my home, my goals completely changed.
Funny enough, I actually started my Instagram that many of you know as Young Homemakers Club with another name called Bloom & Conquer when I first got married.
It was going to be a community for boss babes to grow in business, finances, etc.
Once my mindset shifted, I had the big idea to create a community with other women who believed in biblical womanhood, homemaking, recipes, health, budgeting, and more. So it was kinda like the first community idea, but instead this time around, there was a different heart behind it.
Thus is born, Young Homemakers Club!
God allowed my Instagram to grow and now my Substack, and this is where I’m at now!
But here’s my dilemma…
Before I started the YHC Blog & Community, I had a couple of years where I invested into learning, growing, and becoming a better woman. My home, my marriage, and my easy work-from-home job were the only responsibilities I had.
Then, I became a content creator and started a new job that was not so easy. Added with everything else, I was easily burnt out.
I started to prioritize making content over attending to my home and marriage. Making food takes longer because I had to make sure I have the right angles (still trying to figure out how to create food content without it taking much longer). And late nights were the norm in our home.
I put pressure on myself to do so much and keep up with the hustle and bustle of the algorithm.
The one thing about being a content creator is that comparison is SO easy. You go on Instagram to get inspiration and think to yourself, maybe I should try that for my business. Or, why isn’t my video doing as well as hers?
It’s so easy to get stuck in this loop of comparing yourself, trying new things that flop sometimes, getting bummed out about it, wanting to give up, then telling yourself: “You just have to work harder.”
At least, that’s what happens in my world.
I am a very ambitious woman, which I don’t think is bad. However, I do believe that ambitions, however worthy the cause, can allow for other important areas in your life to be neglected if you let them.
It’s easy to think that because the work that I am doing has a good impact in the world, it’s okay to neglect other areas.
But this is not how I want to live my life ANY LONGER.
The thing is, the content I speak about often is all about prioritizing your home and family because I truly believe in that!
I believe that being a homemaker is biblical and a beautiful calling that God has given to women, which is why I shout it at the roof tops, but I will no longer be neglecting my home to do that.
What my life felt like
Living the life I described was so fast-paced and I felt like I was running through the motions each day. Every day ran into each other.
Honestly, it was hard to take care of myself properly because I would be so exhausted. I’d rarely feel put together each day.
All of my creativity was drained and I started to create content I enjoyed less and less. I even stopped creating content altogether for a moment and stayed in this mindset of stressing out about what to do next and which strategy I was going to follow so that I can grow and have success like other content creators.
What I’m changing in no specific order
Enjoying the content I create for the first time in a while
I am SO done with trying to stick into a niche or comparing myself to other creators. I finally figured out that I am different than anyone else online, so I should embrace that. This has given me so much freedom and allowed me to actually enjoy what I’m doing again, even though it may not get all of the views yet.
Stop trying to optimize & strategize
I’m learning to just create again and it feels so good. I just want to share things I enjoy and it doesn’t fit into one category all of the time. I enjoy speaking about marriage, recipes, my health journey, homemaking, etc. I think these are all things that impact the home, but people might not want each piece of content all of the time…and that’s okay. I just want to create again.
Slowing down
I value peace and I realized the best way to do that right now is to slow down and be more intentional in my day-to-day life and stop stressing so much about the future. I spoke to a good friend recently who told me that I always seemed in a rush. And honestly, that’s how I felt. Always in a rush to get to my destination dream life. But what about the beautiful life I’m living right now in the meantime?
Resting for real & working for real
Being more intentional with my time allows me to truly rest and truly work. Here’s what I mean by that: when I go through the motions of each day and simply let things happen, I realize that I never have truly focused work time or rest time. Now, I allot time to work intentionally with no distractions and to rest intentionally with no distractions—and it feels really good.
How this has had an impact in my life
This journey has been an eye-opening experience for me.
I used to think that success was measured by how much I could accomplish, how fast I could grow, and how well I could keep up with the ever-changing demands of content creation.
But in chasing those things, I found myself drifting further away from the life I truly wanted—a life of peace, purpose, and fulfillment in my home and marriage...something I speak about often.
I’ve come to understand that true success isn’t about how hard I hustle or how perfectly I optimize my time, but about how well I steward the blessings God has given me.
I no longer feel the need to prove myself through constant work, nor do I want to live at a pace that leaves me depleted and disconnected from the things that truly matter.
I’ve learned to embrace slow, intentional living—where my marriage, home, and well-being are not just afterthoughts but priorities.
This shift has brought so much freedom. I feel lighter, more creative, and more present in my everyday life.
I’m finally allowing myself to enjoy the work I do without letting it consume me.
I’m learning that I don’t have to chase success; I just have to be faithful in what God has called me to do.
And for the first time in a long time, I feel at peace.
I am beyond grateful for this new outlook, and I look forward to building a life that reflects my values—not the pressure of the world.
Do you relate? Let me know in the comments!
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Thank you for sharing this ❤️ im a baby content creator and this was a great reminder